I’m a Japanese matchmaker supporting Australian single men and Japanese single women to find love and a long term relationship.
I offer consulting services specializing in international marriage activities, and before the consultation, I ask new clients to answer a simple questionnaire.
Why do Japanese women do KONKATSU ( a marriage activity )?
One of my Japanese female clients wrote the following comments on the questionnaire.
Last year, I stopped Konkatsu ( Konkatsu 婚活 is a activity of a finding a partner) because I questioned whether I ever really wanted to get married. But I hadn’t decided not to get married, so I resumed my Konkatsu again. I had a vague idea that I would get married and have a family (children) in my early thirties. To be honest, I don’t know what kind of person I am looking for, or what kind of person would need me.
This is something that many Japanese single women can relate to.
In western culture, being single or not single is not a big issue I think. It is your choice and no one forces you to marry.
But if you are a Japanese woman and in your late 30s or early 40s, the social pressure is very high and makes you very uncomfortable.
Many Japanese women who are in their 30s do Koknatsu because:
- Everyone is doing it so they feel they have to do it too.
- Their parents forced them to do it.
- If they are still single, they feel guilty to their parents..
- If they do it they can use the excuse later “I tried it”
Marriage is not cooking, washing or ironing
This morning I wrote a blog in Japanese to Japanese single women. What I said in my blog is:
Now, just forget about marriage for a moment. Put aside for the moment whether you want to get married or not, and imagine a situation like this.
You had a very bad day at work, and there was no one to take your side. You went home exhausted.
Wouldn’t it be nice to have a big, fluffy sofa that you could fall into and give your whole body to?Wouldn’t it be nice to have a big, fluffy blanket to wrap your cold body in?
The problem has not been solved yet and you have to go to work again tomorrow.
Nevertheless, the soft sofa and blanket help you rest your tired body and brain and you are able to get up again the next morning.
Wouldn’t it be nice to have such a sofa and blanket?
If you want such a sofa and blanket, I think you should get serious about your Konkatsu activities. Because a good marriage is like that.
Gentlemen, do you agree with this?
Marriage – A soft place to fall into
I have a soft place to fall into and that is my husband. My husband has a soft place to fall into and that is me.
Marriage is not cooking, washing, or ironing. Marriage is becoming a soft place for someone and having a soft place to fall into.
And I hope you will find a soft place to fall into and you will become a soft place for someone, too.