Rejection is one of most painful experiences
Rejection is a painful experience for anyone.
Rejection from your girlfriend, rejection from your parents, rejection from your children, rejection from a job application…
My husband does acting as a hobby and has had many auditions in the past. Actors get rejected all the time.
I wonder how my husband can cope with rejection without disappointment or depression. If I were him, one rejection would be enough.
How often did you miss a great chance because you were afraid of rejection?
There is a male member who often replies to my newsletter and I enjoy reading his feedback. One day I wrote about one of our successful couple’s stories. If you haven’t read it, please visit the page.
Then he sent me an email:
Love Japanese women!
I’ve worked with many Japanese women. When I worked for 16 years for Cruises, many Japanese ladies were married or were de facto partners with my Australian male co-workers. Nearly all are still together!
I often thought I would like to find a nice Japanese lady as my life partner but was always too shy and scared of rejection to actually ask one of my co workers out but still made many friends of our Japanese Ladies.
I find you are all very friendly and easy going in nature, (like me!) So now I am retired and live in a beautiful place with plenty to do and share. I think I would like to find someone to share it all with who would really love and appreciate the life style, there’s no urgency but would love to find the right lady
Thank You Misao and Ozmatch for giving us all that opportunity.
That is a very sweet message and it put a smile on my face.
And at the same time I imagined what it must have been like for a young man who was too shy to ask a Japanese girl to go out. What could have happened if he asked her out?
Rejection doesn’t mean you are not good enough
I asked my husband how he could cope with rejection from his auditions without disappointment or depression.
He said it didn’t mean his personality was denied or his ability was denied. He was just not the right person for the role and that was it.
Wow. It sounds very ZEN to me.
Japanese men in Australia are in a much tougher situation than Australian men!
We are an Australian and Japanese matchmaking agency and we have both Australian male members and Japanese male members who are liking in Australia.
There is a Japanese man who has been rejected by our Japanese ladies. His OMIAI requests were mostly rejected, and when he did get an OMIAI, it didn’t go well.
One day he told me that he wanted to give up. I felt his pain.
Our Japanese male members all are very gentle, honest, humble and very patient. They will make good husbands.
But unfortunately most of our Japanese ladies are seeking non-Japanese men. That is why some of Japanese male members have already given up. They don’t want to be rejected by our female members.
I understand how they feel. Rejection is painful. But if you don’t ask, sure you won’t feel pain, but you also won’t gain anything.
What to do when your date is rejected by a Japanese woman?
There is an Australian male member whom I would like to talk about today.
He was a very good man and I introduced him to one of our ladies. I thought they would match. But he was rejected by his OMIAI partner after their OMIAI.
I think rejection is not the right word. It was not a rejection. She didn’t think him to be a good match.
Usually both male and female members don’t ask me why an OMIAI didn’t go well, because it is painful to hear the feedback.
But he asked me straight away, “ Misao, please tell me what I did wrong and how I can improve it”
I was so moved by his attitude and his bravery. It must be painful to hear negative feedback, whether it is true or not.
I told him what he could improve and what he needed to do for the next OMIAI. He took my advice seriously and did what was needed at the next OMIAI session.
Now he is with a beautiful Japanese partner. If he gave up after his first OMIAI, he wouldn’t be with this lovely Japanese woman. If he didn’t ask why it didn’t work out, he wouldn’t have found the love of his life.
What to do when your date is rejected by Japanese woman?
Do not take it personally. You may not be whom she is looking for but it doesn’t mean you are not good enough. Do not give up so easily. She might not be in a good mood at the moment. Maybe you can ask why she didn’t say yes. She might just be too shy to say YES.
My husband was too shy to ask any girl out and he was afraid of rejection. But look! He has gotten the best one.
So don’t give up.