OzMatch, an Australian and Japanese matchmaking agency, requires all OzMatch couples to submit a relationship progress report or do a video chat with their matchmaking advisor to talk about how their relationship is going, once a month.
Our male members seem to find these things troublesome. 🙂
The other hand, our Japanese female members seem to be happy either submitting a relationship progress report or chatting with their matchmaking adviser.
The quality of communication, not its length
The relationship progress report we get couples to fill out contains six sections and three of which are listed below.
- What I am grateful for is … (express a gratitude about yourself)
- What I am grateful for is…(express a gratitude about your partner)
- What I am grateful for is…(express a gratitude towards your relationship)
“Why should I write about gratitude when I’m reporting on my relationship status?” You may wonder.
In fact, one of our Australian male members who is dating our Japanese female member said that it was more important to think about how well they communicated than to express their gratitude. Indeed, it is very important to make sure that communication is taking place.
But as an Australian and Japanese international matchmaking advisor who has been observing many international couples, I have to say that three hours of video chat doesn’t mean they communicate well.
I’m not concerned about how many hours the couple talks. My question is “Did it bring you joy?”
There are many couples who talk for hours but don’t discuss the important things, the things they really want to talk about. Even married couples do that, don’t they?
Love and Gratitude – Great things happen when you take things seriously
So instead of asking our Australian and Japanese members to report on how long or how often they communicated and what they talked about, we ask them to write down how they feel about the relationship, about the person in front of them at this moment in time.
Gratitude is the foundation of human relationships.
By answering these three questions you can become aware of the positive aspects of your relationship and see how far you have come.
We often take our relationships for granted, but by focusing on what we are grateful for, we can keep them alive and well.
What I am grateful for my Australian boyfriend is
I got a relationship progress report from one of our Japanese female members who is dating an OzMatch Australian male member.
What I am grateful for is … (express a gratitude about yourself)
“I look back at all the hard work I’ve done and congratulate myself for continuing to move forward!“
What I am grateful for is…(express a gratitude about your partner)
“I am happy that he is healthy and smiling every day. That’s what makes me happy.“
What I am grateful for is…(express a gratitude towards your relationship)
“This relationship has really helped me to value my relationship with him, to spend more time with him and to change my priorities from work.
I have also learnt to take care of myself from this relationship. I feel I have learnt a lot from him.“
This is Gratitude and this is OzMatch Japanese women’s attitude. couples. I am very proud of each member’s progress and growth.
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