3 Reasons Why Japanese Women Seek Dating Abroad
I am a Japanese matchmaker supporting single men and Japanese single women who are looking for a long lasting romantic relationship.
I do consultations for single men who want to meet Japanese women and Japanese single women who want to meet men overseas.
People sometimes ask why Japanese women want to meet foreign men.
From the fact that I myself married an Australian man, and from the fact that I consult Japanese women on international marriage every day, I believe there are three main reasons why Japanese women seek dating abroad.
Firstly:
Japanese women have an image that foreign men or Japanese men abroad will be nicer to Japanese women than Japanese men in Japan.
I don’t say foreign men are nicer than Japanese men but that is what most Japanese women believe. And I used to be one of them.
Secondly:
Japanese women in their late 30s and beyond are clearly told that they are not worthy of a marriage partner in Japan because they are too old.
Because of this, educated women in their late 30s and older with good jobs would rather find partners abroad than in Japan.
Thirdly:
Japanese women feel that they can live more carefree lives overseas. I was definitely one of them and I think I was right.
These women wish to leave Japan and live spontaneously with someone they love outside Japan.
Two English Phrases explain why Japanese women seeking dating abroad
“It’s none of your business” shocks Japanese women
The first time I heard the phrase “it’s none of your business” was when I came to live in Australia and started watching TV dramas in English.
I knew very little English, so I assumed it was a scene talking about business. I thought they were talking about a very difficult business matter, because they were in a nasty mood.
However, as I heard the phrase over and over again, I came to understand that it apparently means, ‘don’t interfere in my affairs’.
When I found out it, I was astonished. Because the conversation was not between parent and child, but was used in a conversation between adults.
In Japan, there are occasions when a rebellious teenage boy says to his mother, “It’s none of your business,”( not exactly the same but similar meaning) but there are seldom occasions when adults say to others, “It’s none of your business,” in a conversation.
At the very least, I have never said that in my life.
I may have said to my mother, “It’s none of your business,” but I have never made that statement to anyone outside of my family, nor have I ever thought it was okay to say it. Because it is too rude to say it.
“It’s none of your business” tells Japanese women it is ok to say NO
People who have traveled to Japan say the Japanese are very polite. It must be very nice for foreign tourists to be treated politely.
But you need to know that Japanese politeness pleases foreign tourists but that super politeness also makes Japanese people suffer because they have to suppress their true feelings.
I don’t think I will ever use the phrase ‘It’s none of your business’ because I am a very polite Japanese woman. 🙂
But it means a lot to know that it is okay to say, “It’s none of your business,” when someone is stepping into your territory.
The English phrase “It’s none of your business” has taught me it is ok to say NO if I need to say it.
No one wants to be controlled by others, right?
“Who cares” surprises Japanese women
Another English phrase that was not present in my life was ”Who cares”.
I got divorced at the age of 44 and came to Australia on my own. I was a student for the first two years.
During those two years, I dated a lot of Australian men on dating sites, and one time, while on a date, I asked him something like, “Wouldn’t your family be disappointed if you did that?”
I don’t even remember what he was going to do, but I still vividly remember the line he said afterwards.
“Who cares.”
Even as a beginner in English, I immediately understood what it meant.
Who cares?
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No one cares.
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So let’s do it!
I was shocked and speechless. Because I had never had this idea, either.
If this were Japan, I think this would be the case:
Who cares?
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Everyone would care.
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So let’s not.
“Who cares” tells Japanese women it is ok to do what you want to do
I was born and raised in the countryside of Japan, in a village full of people who had never even seen a foreigner before.
I was probably the first person to have a passport and the first person to travel abroad.
I was definitely the first person to marry a foreigner and move to a foreign country, and I may well be the last from my village..
Growing up in such a rural area, my mother always told me from my childhood:
Think about what the people around you think before you speak.
In a community where it was the norm for girls not to express their opinions, my mother must have been worried about my outspokenness and repeatedly told me so.
I loved my mother and respected her, so I listened to what she said.
And until I was 44 years old, I tried to make decisions based on what other people thought of me.
Because of this, I was antagonized by people around me, and I think I was liked as a “good person.
After reading this far, you may have thought that I was born in the countryside and that’s why I acted the way I did.
Well, I am just one example. I would like to say that most Japanese people think and act like this. Because Japanese society is concerned about public opinion
The English phrase “Who cares” has taught me that I can do what I want to do.
Because it is my business and no one cares what I do or did.
Understanding Japanese culture will help you to understand your future Japanese wife
What I said is just one example and from my own experience.
But If you are interested in meeting Japanese women or want to know how to have a long term relationship with a Japanese woman, I think what I shared with you today will help you to understand Japanese culture and your future Japanese partner.
Japan is a very nice country and I love Japan. But It is also a difficult country to live in for women who want to live according to their own feelings.
That is why Japanese women want to find their partner outside Japan and live with lots of laughter and love together.
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