Ozmatch, an Australian and Japanese matchmaking agency holds an online meetup for Japanese female executive members once a month and we hold it yesterday afternoon.
Between Australia and Japan, there is more than 7000km distance.
Long-distance relationships, language barriers, cultural differences, abandoning a career in Japan, and being away from family are some of the major challenges for Japanese women in international marriages.
That’s why we hold a monthly meetup to discuss the questions, concerns, and expectations we all have.
I got a question from one of our Japanese female member yesterday : “The moment a person meets the person of their dreams, do they have a sudden realisation, like an electric shock or rainbows and sunshine?”
What do you think? Did it happen to you? ( if you married in the past)
Many Japanese women dream that there is a soulmate in the world and that the moment they meet him, it will hit them!
That’s very romantic and I believe some people have it or will have it.
However, from my own experience and from looking at Ozmatch successful couples, I think that it’s not that there are soulmates out there waiting to meet each other, but that over time, they become soulmates for each other.
The most common reason ( in Japan) why she choose him is she can be her natural self in front of him. This may be due to the Japanese culture that does not let you be yourself.
When I said that , one of the Japanese female members said the words as if she had realised something.
“Oh, he has kept telling me that it’s okay to be who I am ….” and suddenly, her face began to glow.
She has been dating one of our male members but the relationship hasn’t gone further, because she expected there would be some intense chemistry between them but there wasn’t.
But yesterday’s meetup has changed her life.
I got an announcement from her and her boyfriend last night that they have entered into an exclusive relationship. They both sounded very happy.
Maybe you don’t need an electric shock or rainbows and sunshine. Maybe you just need someone who lets you be yourself.
But it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t project your best self, so please send us your best photo, not your daggiest. 🙂