There’s no time like Christmas to feel alone
In the West, Christmas would be a time to spend with family like the Japanese new year. But in Japan, Christmas is a time for couples.
So I hated Christmas when I was in Japan and I hated Christmas for decades because I was single for a very long time. I never felt more alone than at Christmas time. How about you?
I had a consultation with an Australian male member a few days ago. He asked me how I would spend Christmas. I said my husband and I were invited to a Christmas lunch but that’s all.
He said he would have lunch with his mum and that’s all.
I couldn’t say anything because I felt like his Christmas would be more lonely, although he and I and my husband are the same in that we just have Christmas lunch with someone else.
There is a big difference between spending time alone when you are avoiding socialising and spending time alone when you are not avoiding socialising. Like there is a big difference between choosing to be single and not choosing to be single.
What did those who were alone last Christmad and not alone this Christmas do?
One of our happy male members is spending Christmas this year right now with his Japanese girlfriend whom he met at the OZMATCH.
When I had a consultation with him a month ago, he told me about last year.
This time last year, he had come to Australia alone from another country, but he had no job, no friends and was full of anxiety about what his life was going to be like.
Just moving to another country takes courage, but not having a job must have been very discouraging. Luckily he found a job. Then he wanted to find a partner. He searched and found us, OZMATCH which introduce Japanese women.
During my initial free consultation with him, I listened carefully to what he said and I told him. ‘We have the right Japanese lady for you.’
That is his current Japanese girlfriend and soon-to-be future Japanese wife.
They sent me a few pictures. His face with his Japanese girlfriend, who came from Japan to see him, looked really happy and made me happy too. Seeing him makes me realise how much things can change in just one year.
He spent Christmas alone last year, but this year he is not alone. He has a Japanese girlfriend and soon-to-be future Japanese wife next to him. What did he do?
There was no guarantee that his life would be better but he trusted his intuition and acted on it.
What did people do who found their purpose, IKIGAI, in life from nothing?
I received a Christmas present from one of our male members this morning. It was one long email.
A Japanese female member, who had an OMIAI with him last month and started a tentative relationship with him, came from Japan to meet him. She returned to Japan yesterday. After seeing her off, he sent me an email.
Konbanwa Misao san,
I just want to say thankyou again for giving me the opportunity to meet her. I know now that your guidance is a very important part of the process.
Her time here was an instant connection from the very first moment. I know other soon to marry members might say that, but it is as if we are one person, in the way we feel and think. I’m not saying that just because the relationship is new, she is someone I can be with, without losing my own identity and interests.
I’m compassionate towards her, and her towards me. She really has given me purpose, my IKIGAI, to complete my ordinary life.
There are lots of things to overcome in the future, but I’m more confident we can work things out… somehow.
Anyway, a big thankyou to you, I can’t imagine my life without her now.
IKIGAI is the Japanese word for ‘the joy and purpose of living’ and ‘the value of living’.
For me, as a Japanese woman, it is more touching to be told that “you are my IKIGAI (reason for living) ” than to be told “I love you.” But that’s me. I am not sure what other Japanese women feel about “You are my IKIGAI”.
A purpose in life is not so easy to find. The fact that he was able to find it in just one month is a miracle. But before that one month, he had spent years alone. He was also one of those who spent Christmas alone last year.
There was no guarantee that he would meet the Japanese woman of his dreams but he trusted his intuition and acted on it in his 60s. Wonderful.
What to do to spend next Christmas with a Japanese girlfriend
Very simple.
Follow your feelings and just do what you can do. There is no guarantee anywhere that it will ever turn out the way you want it to. But if you don’t try, you will neve know.
Registering on OZMATCH is not the only way to meet a Japanese woman of your dreams. You can try online dating platforms, joining dating events, and more. If you don’t try any of it, you won’t know what works for you and nothing will change.
As I mentioned at the beginning. I didnt’ like Christmas for decades because I was single for a very long time. I didn’t like the Japanese culture, where being single was seen as something to be ashamed of. I couldn’t stand that my parents would be embarrassed by my being single.
When the pain reached a maximum and I couldn’t take it anymore, I left Japan. I was 44 years old. I never expected to meet anyone in Australia or anywhere else. Who would be interested in women who are in her 40s?
I can see now that 44 is not too late to fall in love, but I didn’t know that when I was in Japan.
But luckily I left Japan and came to Australia. I didn’t have any friends or acquaintances, and there was no guarantee that life would be any better than it was in Japan, but I followed my heart. I’m very proud of my decision 20 years ago.
I didn’t take action until the pain was maxed out, but I would recommend you to take action a little earlier. If you take action after the pain is maxed out, you are more likely to make the wrong decision. For example, choosing the wrong woman and that is not good.
What to do to spend next Christmas with a Japanese girlfriend?
Do something different and then something will come back, which may not be a Japanese girlfriend. But there will be a much more interesting next year than this year.
Merry Christmas.
Are you looking for a Japanese woman to spend 2024 Christmas with her?
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- Men who find Japanese women attractive but are not sure how to meet them.
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