Can you trust your matchmaker?
As I am a Japanese matchmaker and introducing Japanese single women to Australian single men, I always want to know how to gain the trust of Australian members.
When I started the matchmaking service between Australian singles and Japanese singles, my biggest obstacle and my biggest fear was ENGLISH conversation. I kept telling myself that no one would trust me when they listen to my broken English (at least I thought it was broken).
I said to myself quite often ” Why did I choose this business? What was I thinking?”
I wanted to get new members but at the same time I hoped nobody would contact us. I know it sounds crazy but this is what I hoped.
Your matchmaker is also afraid of being cheated …
You are not the only one who is afraid of being scammed. To be honest I am afraid of being cheated by male members too.
Matchmaking agencies are everywhere in Japan and It is common for singles to join an introduction agency because they don’t feel at risk about joining. But here in Australia, people are more wary about joining anything. It is because there are a lot of scammers out there. That means I could be a victim too.
This is my third year of OZMATCH. My first year was awful. I didn’t have confident at all therefor I wasn’t treated nicely by male members. They wanted everything for free and I gave them everything for free. I shouldn’t blame to them. I created that situation.
The other day during a consultation, one of male members told me that I was a business woman. I know it wasn’t a compliment. But I have to be strong. That is what I learnt from my first year.
You may be afraid of being cheated by me but I am also afraid of being cheated by you. 🙂
Are we equal ??
Start communicating with your matchmaker and build trust
Being afraid of each other doesn’t make for a positive outcome. If you experienced a divorce or a break up, you know that miscommunication creates a lot of misunderstanding, doubt, anxiety, indecision, confusion, hesitation, self-doubt etc etc.
My English is still not good, but you can talk to me and I will listen to you. You may get a solution to your anxiety, confusion or loneliness. This way we both come to trust each other and we both win.
This is what I do everyday with OZMATCH members. Listen to them and talk to them.
This is what one of my Australian male clients said about me.
“I decided to join OzMatch about one year ago after receiving a thorough and encouraging consultation with Misao.
Comparing with my previous experiences with other matchmaking services, which very often do not offer any support after you paid a substantial amount for your membership or sometimes set up dates that totally deviate from your preferences.
What makes OzMatch special is that Misao genuinely listens to you and walks this path with you – sometimes by asking you insightful questions, by providing you constructive advice, or simply by communicating with your match and handling difficult conversations for you.
Misao treats you not only as her client but also as her friend.Living in Sydney, I have not yet met her in person, but I look forward to meeting her in the near future and would love to invite her and her husband to my future wedding as well.”