Job first, Family … third ?
I never saw my parents take a day off to celebrate their wedding anniversary. Actually they didn’t remember their anniversary. They were too busy working and raising their children.
The sad thing is they didn’t remember my birthday either. But it didn’t mean they didn’t love me. They loved me in their way and I appreciated it.
My brother tries to remember his wedding anniversary for his wife, not for him. He is a very caring person but he has no idea what women expect of men.
He is so loyal to his company and he believes that men should be loyal to their company.
If you know how to cook, you will be appreciated
When I met my husband, Sean, I was a 47 year-old international student who couldn’t understand English, but I was lovely 🙂
I had an exam and I had to pass all subjects. Being an international student is not easy.
Anyway I kept cancelling our dates because I was so afraid of failing and needed to concentrate on study.
One evening, someone knocked at the door. Who was it? I was living alone and no one visited my apartment in the evening.
It was my new boyfriend, Sean. He brought 7 different meals and all of them he cooked himself. He thought that I didn’t have time to cook for myself because of the exam.
Can you guess what my reaction was ?
I cried. I cried tears of joy. No man ever cooked for me in my life.
My father didn’t know how to boil water. My mum did everything for him. So he didn’t need to know how to boil water.
My brother can cook because he had to look after himself at university, but it never occurred to him that he could cook for his family.
I grew up in that kind of family, so I was so moved by Sean’s actions. Is he still cooking for me? Not very often but he has kept caring for me and making me smile ever since we met. He is doing very well. 🙂
Gratitude is Japanese culture
I guess making Japanese women happy will be easier than making western women happy.
What I want to say is Japanese women are used to being forgotten and therefore they appreciate small things.
Gratitude is one of biggest parts of Japanese culture and I am very lucky to have been born in Japan.
To make your future Japanese wife happy is simple
Sean and I married on 8th of August, 2008.
Yesterday was our 12th wedding anniversary and my husband made the whole day about us. That is what women need occasionally to feel loved and that is what most Japanese women want as well, to have quality time with their partner.
Have you read ‘The 5 Love Languages’? It is one of the best selling books out there. The book says that there are five ways that people relate to love.
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Act of Service
- Physical Touch
People are different and each Japanese women are different. But Japanese women will definitely feel love if you take time and share quality time with them.
Are you the kind of man who takes a day off to have a wedding anniversary with your wife?