Are you open to expressing your emotions and affection?
Yesterday afternoon, I provided a consultation to a new executive male member, who is in his 50s, divorced, and has no children.
This is the second time I have spoken to him. The first was a 30-minute initial consultation as a basic member and yesterday was a 60-minute consultation now that he has become an executive member.
At the initial consultation, he was very polite, told me a lot about himself and I had a very good impression of him. He shared the story of why he was interested in Japanese women and how it all started, which was lovely.
In yesterday’s consultation, we talked more specifically about which Japanese woman he would like to have a first date with (we call it an OMIAI). We also went over the details of what to look out for on a first date with a Japanese woman.
After the whole explanation, I asked him if he had any questions, and he told me this.
“I am open to expressing my emotions and affection”
I had assumed that he was talking about himself and did not realise that this was the gateway to a deeper question.
Japanese women desire to be shown affection
I explained that most Japanese women who register with OZMATCH are eager for their partners to express their affection.
Japanese women who have given up trying to find this in Japanese men come to OZMATCH in search of it abroad. So, I told him that ‘men who express their affection like you are very welcome’.
However, looking at his face, it seemed that my explanation was not enough. So I had to keep talking, and the moment I said ‘Japanese women want to show their affection too’, he reacted.
I realized that what he really wanted to ask me was: ‘Do Japanese women express affection?’
If not, there is no point in finding a Japanese partner. He didn’t say it but I think it is natural to think so.
Do Japanese women express emotions and affection?
Well, yes they do. But compared to Western women, that may be very modest. We refrain from expressing our affection, especially in public.
My husband and I go to Japan every few years and he gives me a gentle hug on the train after a long day of sightseeing, which is a little embarrassing.
Things that are nothing to me when I’m in Australia feel embarrassing in Japan. This is because there is no culture in Japan of married couples hugging or holding hands in public. I don’t say that they don’t exist, but it is not common.
Today, Emiko, one of the OZMATCH support team, came to my home and when she saw a picture of my parents, she said, “That’s nice. I have never seen my parents holding hands”.
It’s rare for my parents to hold hands like this. It is a precious photo.
Modern Japanese couples living in the city, such as Tokyo, Yokohama, Kobe, Fukuoka, or Sapporo may express their affection more generously. But the number is still far fewer than in the West.
What expressions of affection Japanese women appreciate
Have you read the book ‘The Five Love Languages’?
The book says that different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways.
When I read this book, I was shocked to find out that I had not realised how simple it was.
Have you ever experienced that you love her so much, but she doesn’t feel it? Or have you ever been worried that you don’t know if she loves you?
Maybe your expressions of affection are not what she is looking for.
Maybe her expressions of affection were not what you expected.
There are many ways to express affection. Some people want it expressed in words, some in attitudes, some in gifts.
When I met my husband, I was an international student. I was busy with homework every day, exams were coming up and I was very busy and didn’t have time to date him.
Then one night, he brought me seven different dishes, saying that I was too busy to cook.
I was born in Japan and had never seen a man cook for a woman before, so how impressed I was by this act from him. I almost cried. If the same was done for a western woman who was used to men cooking, she might not have been as impressed as I was.
The home-cooked meal he delivered to me that day was truly an expression of love that captured my heart and the hearts of Japanese women.
It is very important to learn and recognize these preferences in yourself and in your loved ones to develop a great relationship.
Learn each other’s love language
When I start talking to my husband and he closes his computer and turns his body towards me, I feel loved. I feel loved much more strongly than if he says to me ‘I Love You’.
How about you? When do you feel loved?
Japanese women may not be as good at expressing affection through words and gestures as their Western counterparts. However, if one of the ways of expressing affection is to make an effort to remain feminine, Japanese women are very good at this. 🙂
Are you looking for a Japanese women ?
We are a licensed introduction agency based in Australia, supporting single men and single Japanese women who are looking for a long-lasting romantic relationship.
OZMATCH is suitable for those single men
- Men who find Japanese women attractive but are not sure how to meet them.
- Men who feel that they are not compatible with Western women.
- Men who have tried online dating to meet Japanese women but felt that it was a waste of time.
- Men who want to have a permanent relationship with a Japanese woman who is willing to move to their country.
- Men who may be shy or inexperienced when it comes to women.
- Men who want a personalised Japanese matchmaking service with a real person assisting them.
- Men who are interested in Japanese culture and want to enhance their experience through a Japanese partner.
If you are one of them, OZMATCH could be the platform to find the ideal Japanese partner you have been seeking for.
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It takes a few days from registration to approval, but once you are approved as a basic member of OZMATCH, you will be able to view the profiles (but not the photos) of Japanese female members.
Your profile is also viewed by our Japanese female members.
If your profile is attractive, you will receive a request of a first date by our Japanese female members.
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